Squirting is a topic that almost always comes up at one of our Best Kept Secret Romance Parties. "What is squirting?" and "How can I do it?" are two questions that I'm almost always asked. I am going to share with you all what I have learned on the topic through research and experience.
What is squirting?
Female ejaculation is the scientific term for this phenomenon and it has been debated if it is a real thing for years. Many have the misconception that when you are squirting that you are peeing but this is not accurate at all. Research has proven that female ejaculation is real and it is NOT a problem of incontinence. There are actually two kinds of female ejaculate; there is squirting fluid that is usually colorless, odorless, and can occur in large quantities.
There is also ejaculate fluid which looks more like semen, thick and milky.
What is it made of and where does it come from?
Scientific analysis has shown that the fluid contains an enzyme called PSA (prostatic acid phosphatase typically present in male semen which helps sperm motility) and fructose, a form of sugar. Yup, that sweet, sticky stuff! Experts believe that the fluid comes from the Skene's glands, aka, paraurethral glands or female prostate. These glands sit on the front, inside of the vagina near the G-Spot (yes, that's real too!) Stimulation causes these glands to produce the PSA and fructose which then accumulates in the bladder and then gets released through the urethra, which is why traces of urine can be found in female ejaculation as well.
A research study in 2014 took ultrasounds of women's bladders before sex to confirm that they were empty before the women began masturbating. Researchers continued watching their ultrasounds as the women stimulated themselves and watched the bladder began to fill during arousal. Post ejaculation ultrasounds confirmed that their bladders were again emptied after orgasm. It's NOT pee! Researchers have compared urine samples from before and after sex and have found more PSA to be present after, concluding that all females create ejaculate but do not always expel it. Sometimes, the ejaculate can return to the bladder which is then passed through urination. (1)
How can I squirt?
So as I've mentioned above, studies have found that ALL women can produce female ejaculate but it is not always expelled during sex. In order to get more control over this particular orgasm, I always recommend kegel exercises. Kegeling is important to strengthening your pelvic floor muscles and being able to push (or squeeze) on command. Kegeling is essentially the tightening of your vaginal walls as you clinch and hold the muscles for approximately 10 seconds at a time then release. If you have no idea how to do this, start on the toilet. During urination, clinch your vaginal walls to try to stop your stream. When you've mastered stopping your pee stream on command, then you've successfully mastered a kegel.
You should do at least 10 kegels a day while holding each kegel for at least 3 seconds increasing the time you hold as you get better. Kegels help to not only strengthen your pelvic floor muscles but also to increase blood flow to the libido increasing arousal and making sex that much better; not to mention the extra squeeze you can give your partner while he's inside of you. Try a set of yoni eggs or kegel weights to aide you in this exercise once you have gained control of it. Once you have control over the clinching of this muscle, you can also practice the release of the muscle, not just by letting go, but by pushing outward. It's that push that will allow you to expel your female ejaculation fluid.
It feels like I'm going to pee on myself...
This is a common feeling among women when their G-spot area is stimulated, relax. Odds are that you are not going to pee during orgasm, especially if you've emptied your bladder first. The feeling of squirting and the amount of fluid released differs for everyone just as the feeling and intensity of a normal contraction orgasm differs for every woman. Many women experience an increase in squirting fluid as they continue to orgasm. It can start as a stream and end as a waterfall as a woman becomes more aroused during intercourse, even further proving that squirting isn't urination. If squirting were urine, we would expel less of it the more we do it, not the other way around as it happens.
Benefits of squirting
There has been no evidence that squirting has any health benefits although orgasms and sex itself offers many benefits from relieving stress and pain to boosting the immune system. Squirting is a perfectly normal thing to experience even though researchers have yet to confirm the purpose. Don't be afraid to relax and release!
1. Barrell, Amanda. 11 Dec 2018. What is female ejaculation? Medical News Today.