Many of us have been in self-isolation for weeks, even months, and with so many places we once deemed to be essential to our self esteem like hair salons, spas, and nail shops being closed, it has not been easy to feel like our best selves. The recent news, economic uncertainty, and isolation from those we love and things we love to do can cause an increase in stress and anxiety levels and even cause depression in some. Even as these places begin to open again, many are still very hesitant to be the first in anyone's chair as most are still taking serious precautions. Covid-19 is not over yet and the second wave may just be beginning. So what can we do to get that spark back to combat these quarantine blues? ORGASM!
For those who do not live with their partner, this might seem easier than done. During these times it is even more important to self-love. Take time for self care. Put on a little makeup, take a long bath, put on that lingerie that has gotten tucked in the back of your drawer and appreciate yourself. Become more intimate with yourself through masturbation. You don't need another person to be romantic. Set the mood and take time with yourself, be intentionally sensual.
Clean off your toys and recharge them to help recharge yourself or buy something new to give you an experience you have yet to encounter before. If you're saving money at this time, like many of us are, and you don't want to splurge on that new Heated Thruster with Rotating Clitoral Ticklers, use a toy that you haven't used in a very long time and get creative.
You can even involve your partner from a distance by sexting throughout the day, phone sex, or even better, through video calls! A lot of us have gotten much more familiar with video call platforms as we work from home but they can come in handy to spark the mood with your partner as well to make you feel more close even when you are forced to be apart. If you lack imagination, read romance novels or watch your favorite genre of porn to help you explore those fantasies.
Those who do live with their partner may also be struggling with intimacy after being cooped up together for so long with no where to get away when necessary. I will repeat all of the above for you. Rekindle your romance by being intentionally sensual, wear that lingerie that you haven't worn in a while, sext your partner while they are at work (even if you're in the next room), bring out the toys (his and hers), watch a porn together, and explore new fantasies.
Having orgasms release hormones and antibodies that can help to relieve stress, help you sleep, strengthen immune system, provide pain relief, improve mood, and help you live longer. Oxytocin is a hormone released during orgasm that can help you relax and combat stress in the body as well as raise your threshold for pain (good news for those interested in experimenting with S&M). Studies have shown that sex twice a week can can boost the system's antibodies that help to keep us healthy, which is even more important during this time, and that orgasms have a direct effect on the mortality rate in both men and women. It has been found that sexual activity has a protective effect on men's health and that women who reported a frequency of orgasm during intercourse tend to live longer than those who are less sexually fulfilled.
So, if you've been feeling down and lonely, go ahead and love yourself in ways you may never have before!